Fear of Stairs- Bathmophobia: 

For some of you, stairs must be a mere invention that overcomes the difficulty of climbing long passages. But for some other people, it is nothing but a phobia. There is an end number of phobias listed by the researchers, out of which there is a phobia of stairs called Bathmophobia.

Bathmophobia is derived from a Greek word, ' Bathmo,' which means steps, and phobia means fears. 

Some people may find difficulty climbing the stairs, but some suffer dizziness while coming down. 

It is hard to give the exact number of people dealing with this phobia, but a study showed that 1 in 10 Americans had to deal with Bathmophobia at some point in their lives. The problems seem more problematic in teenagers as the report showed that 1 in 5 teenagers had Bathmophobia. 

Causes of Bathmophobia: 

The reason behind developing Bathmophobia can be related to an accident in the past, such as falling from the stairs in childhood. Not only this, Bathmophobia can be occurred due to genetic issues as well.

For those who have Bathmophobia, climbing stairs would only trigger them. So they would go to every extent in order to avoid the stairs. 

Although we do not know the exact causes of bathmophobia, the consensus among most mental health professionals is that both genetics and environmental factors play very significant roles in the development of any given mental disorder. So, taking a closer look at these two different parameters may shed some light on whether you may be at risk for developing bathmophobia.

How to climb stairs confidently: Tips to overcome Bathmophobia 

Start Slow

Every difficulty can be overcome one step at a time. For example, you may need to start slowly by navigating a small staircase with only a few steps. Then work your way up to a slightly larger staircase. As time goes on and you overcome each step and conquer your fear, you can conquer steeper and narrower stairs.

Get Support

You may feel better about going up or down those steps if you have support. Ask a friend or loved one to come with you when you need to make the trip. Explain that you have bathmophobia and are afraid of falling down the stairs. They could hold onto your arm and help steady you as you go. 

Hold On 

If you don’t have anyone to hold onto you, then make a point to hold onto the railing for support. If there are no railings, you can still get help by having onto the side of the wall as you traverse the steps.

Do some renovating 

You may need to do a bit of renovating before tackling this fear. You cannot eliminate stairs, but if you have stairs in disrepair, loose, or uneven, you may want to have them repaired. Also, if the stairs are covered with vinyl or linoleum, that could make you feel like you will fall due to the slippery texture. You could cover the steps with non-slip rubber mats or carpeting. However, this may be a lot of work.

लखनऊ की अंजलि पहुँची राष्ट्रीय स्तर पर।

इंडिया स्किल्स क्षेत्रीय प्रतियोगिता 2018- नॉदर्न  चैप्टर में आई.एच.एम लखनऊ की अंजलि मिश्रा ने चंडीगढ़, उत्तराखंड और पंजाब को मात देते हुए उत्तर प्रदेश को अगले चरण यानी राष्ट्रीय स्तर पर पहुँचा दिया है। इंदिरा गांधी प्रतिष्ठान में हुए तीन दिवसीय इंडिया स्किल्स क्षेत्रीय(नार्थ) में रेस्तरां सर्विसेज प्रतियोगिता में  उत्तरी राज्यो से चुने गए 7  प्रतिभागियों के बीच उनकी योग्यता और कौशल को परखने के लिए प्रतिस्पर्धा हुई जिसमें अंजलि मिश्रा ने प्रथम स्थान पाकर पूरे यूपी  का  नाम रौशन किया। उत्तर प्रदेश के मुख्यमंत्री योगी आदित्यनाथ ने अंजलि को 21 हज़ार रुपये का चेक देकर सम्मानित किया। इससे पहले क्षेत्रीय स्तर की विजेता बनने पर उत्तर प्रदेश के उपमुख्यमंत्री ने अंजलि को 51 हजार का चेक देकर सम्मानित किया था। अंजलि अपनी सफलता का श्रेय अपने गुरु अविनाश सिंह और अपने माता-पिता को देती है। बता दे कि अंजलि इससे पहले जोनल और क्षेत्रीय स्तर पार कर राज्य स्तर में जीतकर राष्ट्रीय स्तर प्रतियोगिता का हिस्सा बनेंगी और अगर अंजलि ने राष्ट्र स्तर की प्रतियोगिता भी जीत ली तो उन्हें रूस के कजाखस्तान  में विश्व भर से चुने गए प्रतिभागियो के साथ स्पर्धा करने का मौका मिलेगा। अंजलि आगे चलकर दुनिया के बड़े होटलो में काम करने के बाद खुदका रेस्तोरां खोलना चाहती है।

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Are Bollywood songs only meant for remakes?

By Kasak Shirotriya

https://tgjthegroundjournal.home.blog/2019/02/16/are-bollywood-songs-only-meant-for-remakes/

It is just like , adding some more flavours to the already cooked dish.

Bollywood has a different craze for its songs. Bollywood is known for its creativity. Those romantic sequence , beautiful locations and powerful dialogues, Bollywood has a lot things to do . But here we are going to talk about the factor which makes Bollywood worldwide famous i.e S.O.N.G.S . Yes, songs also play a foremost role in the success of any Bollywood movie. Sometime it happens that a film doesn’t do good business on the box office but interestingly their songs get hit .

But here is the new trend in the industry  , the era of remake . It has been noticed that now most of the old songs are taken and they are replaced by the new ones which we call them as a remake. It is just like , adding some more flavours to the already cooked dish. Some of the remake which got famous recently are Tamma Tamma from the movie Badrinath ki Dulhania , Oonchi hai building and Chalti hai kya 9 se 12 from Judwaa 2 ( here Judwaa 2 is also a remake of the movie Judwa came in the year 1997 starring Salman Khan , Karishma Kapoor and Rambha ) , Dilbar from the movie Satyamev Jayate .

Here the question arises,  do the musicians has lost their creativity or its just because of the demand of the movie ? There may be one reason that race of coming first or getting million of views in the shortest time. Yes, most of the songs are judged on the basis of views they get on youtube after the release or their popularity on social media . Also if the song is ranked on the top 10 among the chartbusters it is also considered to be a hit . But remake is really needed. If we are asked why songs are included in the movies, so some will answer that so as to make a film more entertaining or interesting, some will say that songs are included to balance the story or plot of the movie. But in most of the caes , remakes were included in the film and nothing was related to the story. It is just making a song worse by adding some extra lyrics of no meaning and irrelevant rap.

On a positive note , the remake of the famous old songs gets popularity as they are considered one of the dance hits.  Making a remake is also not an easy task. It also includes same efforts put in an original song. It is a challenge itself for making a remake because a pressure is always there to make a good remake from the original one as it is but obvious that the remake will be compared with the original one.

We must agree on the fact that Old is gold. Old songs contained some meaningful lyrics as lyrics were written by one of the best lyricists of that time like Gulzar , Javed Akhtar etc. Main reason of the popularity of the old song in this new millennium era is the meaningful lyrics and the strong playback singers. Nowadays , a song is removed from the chartbusters once a new song comes. But old songs are still remembered and have that same craze. Lousy and corny rap which is included in the remake makes the song worse.

Let us tell you the formula of making a remake . First of all , an old song is taken then some changes are done with lyrics and with the music as well and at last our Bollywood so called rapper’s like Badshaah , Raftaar , Honey Singh or Bohemia add some tadka in this process. It should be realised that songs are meant for entertainment and to give a support to the storyline . Making a remake is not a bad thing to do but if they are ruinig the essence of the old songs so they must be avoided to some extent.

Is Media really the fourth estate of Indian democracy?

By Kasak Shirotriya

https://tgjthegroundjournal.home.blog/2019/02/16/are-bollywood-songs-only-meant-for-remakes/

Media’s vital role is to act as a watchdog of the society. It makes us aware of the various social, political and economic activities which take place around us.

Many of us have heard about the fact that Media is considered to be the fourth pillar of the democracy rather than Legislature, Executive and Judiciary. But have you ever thought that why Media has given such authority that it is called the fourth estate of the democracy? Here is the answer, Media’s vital role is to act as a watchdog of the society. It makes us aware of the various social, political and economic activities which take place around us. Also, it keeps an eye on the other three pillars of democracy.

But don’t you think that Media as a 4th estate of the democracy has lost its credibility? Media’s main job is to show the uncovered truth and harsh realities of life. But besides that Media has now forgotten the ethics of journalism. But what can be the reasons behind this?

The growth of TRP ( Television Rating Point ) and Paid news. Yes, these are the two main reasons why media is losing its credibility day-by-day. It is all about the game of TRP. It seems that media organisations are very much inspired by the competition world in terms of TRP. It looks like a battle between the media houses or news channels that who will come first or who will win the game.

According to 2018 World Press Freedom Report, out of 180 countries, India was ranked 138 just above a position of Pakistan.

One of the recent trends shown in the media industry is the Debate shows. Any social issue or current issue is taken by the news channel and then a debate is organized in between the panellists. The more the aggressive debate, the more TRP will collect a show. Their main aim is to attract the viewers anyhow.

If a dog bites a man, it’s ok, but if a man bites a dog, then it is news.

Similarly “ if it bleeds, it leads”. It seems that media personnel have taken this saying too seriously. Anything can be news, if a dog is crossing a road, it can also become news. Don’t be shocked, it’s true.

Any incident is presented in front of you in such a manner that you will be
Here are some of the cases, which proves that Media only works for “Paid News”:-
• The first case is of an MLA from U.P, Umlesh Yadav. She was disqualified by Election Commission for paying two local Hindi newspapers for filling incorrect statement of election expenditure before polling.

• The second case is of a recorded chat between Delhi CM Arvind Kejriwal and Journalist Punya Prasoon Vajpayee. In the clip, Mr Kejriwal is asking to play a part of their interview which will influence his voters`and Mr Punya Prasoon Vajpayee also agrees and this interview was aired.

• If we talk about most of the highlighted cases of Paid news in India, Andhra Pradesh always comes on top. According to the data, the size of the market size of paid news in Andhra Pradesh is between Rs 300- Rs 1000 crore. Strange right?

It is very painful to see that now media has lost its standard of ethical values. Earlier, the journalists used to take as their social responsibility to make people aware of what is happening around the society. Directly or indirectly it acts as a mirror to the society. It always shows what our society reflects. But in today’s scenario, it is very hard to believe that almost every media organisation receives financial support or help from the political parties. But you will be thinking what’s wrong is with this? It’s good if they are getting any kind of support from the political parties right ?. But let’s talk about the other side of the story. If any media organisation is receiving any kind of aid from the political party, so do you think that media channel will air any type of news against that political party.

All these things proved that the journalists are themselves are not following the ethics of journalism. Media has also proved that “it is all about power”. The greedy media is killing the people and democracy.

Does the Patriarchy system promote domestic violence?
By Kasak Shirotriya

Kavya was on cloud nine as she was getting married. Lots of thoughts were running in her mind. She was nervous about her new journey of life which was about to start. Tying the knot is not an easy task in anyone’s life. It is not just about a piece of paper or taking  vows round the fire . It is a union of two people .

Kavya’s fiancée , Shreyash  was at the managerial post in some big MNC . She was having an arranged marriage. Shreyash was  a simple, sweet and calm guy. But Kavya liked his simplicity the most. On the day of her marriage she was experiencing a whirlwind of conflicting emotions . She was so overwhelmed that it all seemed unreal , as if she was dreaming about her prince groom. For the first few months  everything was really nice, Shreyash was very caring , polite and humble. But after some time , Shreyash started abusing her both physically and mentally  . Her husband used to beat her for no reason. When her prince charming turned into a monster , she didn’t come to know. All her dreams about marriage were shattered and turned into a nightmare. This was her everyday story . Being in a relationship with him was like locked up in a prison , being tied and unable to speak.

So, this was the story of Kavya , hard to believe right ? But is this yours story too? It will be more hard to believe that this is the story of almost every third married women in India.

According to National Family Health Survey   released by the Union Health Ministry , 27 per cent of women have experienced physical violence since the age of 15. Around 31 percent of married woman have experienced physical , sexual or emotional violence by their spouses.

Recently , a video has been viral on social media , in which a lady is forced to took off her clothes by her husband. And the most shameless thing is that the husband has himself shoot the video and his child was also sitting beside him at that time. In the video , the lady could not stop sobbing  and was requesting him to not to do that  and showing her bruises all over body.

The question is why a woman is always seen as a sex object or a slave. Marriage is not about just living together , but it is also about care, love and respect . You are married to a woman , you are a husband now , but it doesn’t gives you authority to control her life . Marriage doesn’t gives you license to abuse her , to molest her physically or mentally. It’s just the orthodox and stereotype thinking of the society that women are always weaker than men , women are always to be controlled. But again the question arises here , From where this thinking has arrived ? Why men think that it is their birth right to abuse a woman .It is often a pride for a husband to beat her wife. We don’t need to go far  in search for our answer. The answer is patriarchy. Yes. Patriarchy system directly or indirectly shows that women have no identity at all.

For example , if a girl is born , then till the day she gets married,she uses her father’s name and after marriage, she uses her husband’s name.  A girl is always told that one day you have to get married. Often husbands are called “pati parmeshwar” which says our husband is our god. It’s just the fault of patriarchy thinking which shows women are weaker than the men. It is but obvious that we always try to control those people are weaker than us. Similarly , men think that women are weaker that’s why they try to control them.

Just like Kavya there are so many who are experiencing the same story everyday  . They are being molested, abused, beaten by their husband .  We don’t need to change the thinking of women. But it’s the high time to remove this orthodox thinking from our society to some extent. Men also need to understand, that your partner is not your slave. Nobody is weaker or stronger . A relationship is like two wheels of a cycle, if one wheel is damaged so the cycle can’t be used. It’s just about the maintaining the balance between the two. Need is to change this old concept of patriarchy system which has given the main problem of domestic violence.

पापा आखिर इतनी बड़ी कब हो गयी मैं?
देखिये न पापा कल की ही सी बात लगती है जब आप कहते थे की क्या होगा तुम्हारा? कैसे रहोगी तुम? और मेरे पास हमेशा आपकी बात का जवाब होता कि वक़्त रहते सीख जाउंगी न क्यों ग़ुस्सा करते हो!
पापा क्या आज भी ऑफिस से आने के बाद गेट खटखटाकर मेरा नाम पुकारते हो?
याद है पापा आपको कि हमेशा शाम को मैं आपके आते ही आपका बैग लेने के लिए दौड़ पड़ती थी क्योंकि मैं जानती थी कि आप हमेशा की तरह उस बैग में मेरे लिए कुछ ना कुछ तो होगा!।
तो क्या आज भी दफ़्तर से आने के बाद वो आदत छूटी नही आपकी?
पापा आप बहुत याद आते हो।
वो आपका बात बात पर डाटना और फिर बाद में मेरे रूठ जाने पर मुझे मनाना याद आता है मुझे।
क्या आपको भी याद आती है मेरी पापा?
क्या आप भी मुझे याद करके छुपके से रो दिया करते हो जैसा कि मैं आपको याद करके किया करती हूं?
पापा यहाँ सब हैं कुछ दोस्त और कुछ बहुत अच्छे दोस्त ,
लेकिन यहाँ आप जैसा कोई नही पापा।
पापा आज भी याद है जब मैं अंजान सड़को पर आपकी उंगली थामे चला करती थी पर आज कोइ नही है पापा,
पीछे मुड़के देखती हूं तो सिर्फ नज़र आते हैं मैं और मेरी तन्हाई।
क्या फिरसे वो वक़्त लौट के नही आ सकता पापा?
जानती हूं कि बेटे का ना होना खलता होगा कही ना कहीं आपको,
पर पापा जो कभी सपने आपने देखे थे उन्हें पूरा करना चाहती हूँ।
मैं जानती हूं कि वक़्त के साथ सारे शौक मर चुके हैं आपके,
पर पापा एक बार फिर मैं उन शौकों को जिंदा करना चाहती हूं।
क्या वो सब होगा ना पापा?
क्या वो सब होगा ना पापा?

बिना उसके न इक पल भी गंवारा है,
पिता ही साथी है, पिता ही सहारा है।